Don’t inherit enemies

Friendship and family ties imply a bond so strong that what happens to one person usually affects the second. In another sense, if your friend or family member has a reason to celebrate, you celebrate with them: you dance, sing and rejoice with them. When the time comes for you to sit and stare, providing a shoulder to cry on, irrespective of your personal achievements, if it wouldn’t help cheer that person up, you’d generally keep it to yourself.

That is why even before bad things happen, people support one another in order to stop bad things from happening in the first place, knowing that it could affect their own mood. In this same spirit of friendship, many people go out of their way to do things that ought not to be done. There are a lot of examples in that direction but what matters now is inheriting enemies.

Business and personal relationships require that sometimes there’d be misunderstanding between or among the parties involved. Because of whose side we’re on, many of us don’t mind that our friends or family members may be at fault. We jump in and take their sides no matter what they must have done and in the process many of us inherit enemies who could have been helpful to us in the future if only we had acted more calmly.

The idea of defending a friend or relative is noble; it shows that you care. However, you stand a chance of blocking your own way if you don’t act smartly. That said, even when your friend’s actions are right and someone is truly trying to undermine them or their efforts, you should always remember that the best way to win enemies is by making them friends which means that it is always better to try and help them reconcile rather than escalate the problem. That way, if you ever need help, you know that you have at least one extra option to run to or one less person who you have to see and be angry that you did, possibly spoiling your day.

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